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Beware Of Those Who Try To Excuse People’s Bad Behaviour. Because — You Cannot Put A Flower In An Arsehole And Call It A Vase.
Beware Of Those Who Try To Excuse People’s Bad Behaviour. Because — You Cannot Put A Flower In An Arsehole And Call It A Vase.
It is wise therefore to be careful:
There is often that one person who will always, no matter what, try to excuse someone’s bad behaviour.
Although this may seem altruistic — be careful.
If the behaviour involved you and you land up being annoyed etc, and you then share this experience — watch and take heed of the response.
Excusing bad behaviour may actually be a subtle, sometimes unconscious technique of undermining or diminishing your experience or decision making process with regards a friendship or a relationship.
This is a form of passive bullying.
Do not let anyone undermine you. Trust your gut or your decision making process and get on with it.
As adults we do not need anyone’s permission unless we wish to break the law. And even then, if a decision is wrong — we will suffer the consequences ourselves.
But if something feels right — trust that at that particular time, it felt right. And that’s that.