Don’t Let Your Struggle Become Your Identity.

2 min readApr 29, 2022

Don’t Let Your Struggle Become Your Identity.

Life isn’t always easy and it can throw you a few very difficult challenges.

How you cope with these challenges will inform you about yourself — how you think, how you behave, how you deal with situations, a crisis and indeed even a loss.

You can however, so easily become a victim of your situation — especially if you feed that situation with negative thoughts.

And if you feed your situation by constantly mentioning your difficult dilemmas and so on, then your struggle could become your identity. This is when you may become emotionally stuck and unable to move on from what may have happened to you.

This however could become your new way of relating and it could become your new behavioural habit. Unfortunately habits are hard to break.

So I urge you to, ‘Watch Yourself Like A Hawk’. When you find yourself in difficult situations remember there is a time for mourning, bereavement, sadness, anger and maybe even complaint. But be aware, your struggle could eventually become your identity.

But this will of course depend on what you want from life. As I keep saying, ‘if you’re not moving forward like you want or ought to, then maybe it is time for you to re-look at what it is, that you may be creating, which is preventing you from reaching your ambitions’.

To start this process, you will need to decide what it is that you really really want. Take some time, do some thinking and write down what it is that you want out of life. Then you can begin to slowly work towards that goal. Yes, hard work may be involved, but at least you won’t be feeding your identity with a negative or possibly destructive struggle.

So what’s stopping you?

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I am not offering relationship advice, I am offering relationship knowledge.

I encourage people to think differently and I help people understand how and why we choose our personal and business relationships.

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