Not Talking To Your Parents, Then They Die And You Inherit.

Not Talking To Your Parents, Then They Die And You Inherit.

Four years ago this coming June, my mother passed away and I was prompted to write about a particular angle, that involves being estranged from a parent you then inherit from. This, in case any of you have experienced this:

Sometimes when a parent dies and you inherit, it may bring up all sorts of feelings especially, if you may have removed yourself from contacting them, years before.

Reasons for this can be profound for all involved. Usually, it’s not caused due to a sudden whim, but years of unhealthy or toxic relating that gets to a point when enough is enough. It’s when there is a refusal to accept or deal with an earlier situation or particular situations that give rise to a breakdown in communication. It’s when the relationship reaches a point when there is no going back, until issues are addressed or resolved.

It’s when say the child decides their well-being is too important than the drip drip of unhealthy relating that causes pain, anguish, sadness or even depression. It’s when they get ignored or told they are lying or just being silly — or that it didn’t happen. They were imagining things and so on. But when a situation goes unaddressed and you are forced to accept it — by ignoring it, the result can be collusion within a family. This…