Oh No, Not This Again — Surely Not?

Oh No, Not This Again — Surely Not?

Our negative behavioural patterns often return ‘to bite us on the bottom’ — until we learn how to deal with them. And even then, they can keep returning, as if to check whether we’ve really really healed whatever it is that keeps us from achieving our goals.

And if we keep refusing to deal with our issues, hoping they’ll just go away, this usually means that they’ll keep coming at us — like those suited agents in the Matrix movies.

But also, recognising that even though you think you may have dealt with your negative behavioural patterns, they can return — usually disguised as something else.

Becoming aware of this is crucial to developing self-awareness so that you don’t just give in, thinking that things are pointless and futile, but that you realise that habits can and will return — until you have finally dealt with them properly.

Success comes from persistence and breaking any negative behaviour is hard. The temptation is always to give up. But don’t just give up.

Keep on working on your bad habits until one day — you find that they’ve just disappeared. Because that is how it works.

And yes, it takes courage. Learning to listen to that small voice and to keep on reminding ourselves to constantly work on our negative habits — isn’t easy for any of us. Sometimes we forget.

And unfortunately, few of us are told that it’s only through persistence that we can ever build confidence or even self-awareness.

Arnold Schwarzenegger once said that, “We all have great inner power. The power is self-faith. You have to see yourself winning before you win. And you have to be hungry. You have to want to conquer.”

It’s that simple.

Negative behavioural patterns will therefore continue to emerge like layers of an onion, and the same patterns may emerge but in different forms.

You just have to make the choice, to either deal with each pattern as they arise, knowing that if you don’t — you may be burdened by your patterns or indeed habits — and this could have a negative impact on what you wish to achieve.

Because in the end — none of us should regret the choices we made or what we refused to face.

© 2018 Deidré Wallace. All rights reserved.

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