Parents — Watch Out!

Parents — Watch Out!

When a parent has a close relationship with their children it may on the surface seem wonderful and it may be just that — a good relationship. But if the relationship is too close — beware!

If a parent is too emotionally tied to a child, there may be a reason for this. Often, it’s because a parent has required a child to become a substitute for their emotionally or physically absent wife/husband or partner.

Or it could be, that one child has died and a parent fears losing another. Or the child is needed to fulfil an emptiness, if a parent hasn’t fully developed a life or career of their own.

Then for whatever reason, if a child has either consciously or unconsciously gleaned that a parent needs them emotionally, they may then struggle to form relationships of their own later in life, fearing the wrath or jealousy of a parent.

This, because finding love elsewhere, might make a child feel they’re being disloyal or unfaithful to a parent who is demanding of their attention.

And sadly, even the thought of marriage to another, can send the adult child into dark feelings of dread, guilt and fear that they may lose a parent’s love and attention. Indeed, I know quite a few people who have had to wait for a parent…