The Mother Bond, Siblings And Your Relationship Choices.

The Mother Bond, Siblings And Your Relationship Choices.

Our parent’s relationship (married, divorced, single, etc) becomes our relationship blueprint. I have discussed this ad infinitum in my blogs, articles, my interview last year with The Independent, and recently via a podcast.

However, there is ANOTHER angle that can influence our relationships in adulthood and it is this:

If, and there could many reasons, a mother and her child struggle to bond, when the next child is born — the first child can feel rejected twice over.

Why and what are the implications?

If the mother for example, harbours resentment for any emotional or physical unpleasantness that occurred during pregnancy or during the birth or indeed, after the birth, or perhaps due to the situation she finds herself in, then she could project this and any anxieties she may feel — onto her baby or child.

This could lead to emotional or physical abandonment or rejection, and possibly to abusive treatment: beatings, emotionally or physically harmful punishment techniques, and so on.

And if the mother then has another child, the first child could feel a further loss — if she turns all her attention to the new born child which she then has to care for.